The way we relate to others reveals much about ourselves- we are mirrored in each other.

The relationships we form with ourselves and with others are crucial to how we experience our lives. Relationship and sex counseling can help to shed light on the unseen and to break up repeated patterns. It is a practice that provides a quiet space in which to recognize problems, to tease out why what bothers us bothers us, and to throw out the scripts we grew up with.

Relationship counseling

Relationships come in all forms, some are beginning, and some are dying.

What they all have in common is the constant change and flow that characterises how we relate to ourselves and to each other. Along the way we can sometimes feel stuck – when arguments go in circles, when there is a lack of trust, when you feel like you can’t be yourself, when you face a transition, when you feel that the feelings have just disappeared, when you need support in going through a break-up. Relationship counseling can be done alone, as well as with one or more partners.

Sex counseling

It is often impossible to draw a division between sex and relationship counseling because sex presents a context wherein all of our patterns of relationship are played out. Based on Carl Gustav Jung´s concept of the shadow, my approach in sex counseling is to bring light into the darkness that lies beneath the senses. There, we find the parts of ourselves that we cannot perceive with our eyes or ears, but only by using our intuition, by tuning in to why we do the things we do, by erasing the attention filters we have learned. In this way, we can gain insight into our fears, wishes, desires and dreams. We can learn how to acknowledge the shadow and integrate it into our lives.

This enables you to find solutions when you or your partner(s) feel sexually dissatisfied, when you are unaware of your sexual desires and needs, when you face difficulties in getting sexually aroused, when you feel you suffer from a sexual dysfunction, when you wish to increase your sexual desire or when sex is painful for you.

For a counseling session of 60min:

80 Euro for a single person

140 Euro for two or more people

For a counseling session of 90min:

100 Euro for a single person

160 Euro for two or more people

If you are interested, please send me an email in which you briefly describe yourself and why you would like to see me. In the next step, we will have a 30-minute free introductory session to get to know each other. I will listen to your story, explain the concept of the counseling and we can test the waters together.

About me

I have always been curious about the ways people live, relate to others and experience their emotions. Becoming an anthropologist has sharpened my senses that what we perceive as normal is not because it really is, but because we are shaped by our culture and our upbringing: what we are told to be, feel and express. The biggest part of our own individual process is to learn to differentiate between what we learned to belief and what we truly want. This for me is especially true in relationships as our culture is full of ideas of what is right and wrong in bonding and mating with others. In my studies I specialised in the anthropology of emotions and relationships. I have worked as a research assistant for several years and it made me realise my need to work with people, to open up conversations about relationships, to show that much more is possible than what we were taught and what we observed growing up. In October 2018 we opened ōsmos: a space where relationships are the center of attention. I will combine my anthropological view on the world, the wonder you feel when you see that people find their very own but also shared way of doing things around the globe, with the therapeutical approach of facing your shadow, your own internalised ideas on what is meant to be and not.

Qualifications

• 2019 : Couples and Sex Therapy Training,
  Institut für beziehungsdynamische Sexualtherapie, Berlin

• 2015 : Master of Science Medical Anthropology, Universiteit van Amsterdam

• 2012 : Bachelor of Arts Cultural Anthropology, Sociology, Theater and Movie Studies